“An excellent wife who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.”
Being extremely single, I could argue this scripture not being relevant to my current life situation. So easily I could brush these words off, never allowing them to encourage their deep virtue within my heart. Joke would be on me! The truth of that fiery statement burns its way through my mind, screaming that the extremely single woman I am is obligated to this scripture more than anyone.
No matter her status, I believe every woman should find her worth to be far above jewels in living the most excellent life she possibly can, wherever she is at.
Contrary to media, the Bible defines beauty in character. God designed all women to be beautiful and excellent; the choice is ours whether or not we allow Him to develop that beauty within us.
“Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
The 31 woman exudes these beautiful qualities; far more excellent than any piece of clothing, jewelry, or makeup could camouflage. Her character stands out among women. Integrity is the basis on which she molds her character. Her wisdom, knowledge, and values are a deep well. She is a refreshing oasis in the middle of the desert; a diamond in the rough. Her faith is the beautiful song that defines her. Her obedience to the Lord is observed in her hands. The joy of the Lord beams through her smile. No darkness or selfishness is found in her. She is excellent because she finds her worth in the Lord and nowhere else. The sparkle within her shines more brilliantly than any jewel ever could.
Billy Graham makes a pretty convicting point:
“Too many women have too much leisure time for their own good. They have time for criticism, gossip, faultfinding, and complaining. They have time for idle games and lay too much attention to things of the flesh. There are other women who have too little time for the enduring things of life. They are too busy flitting about doing this and that. They have great activity and much doing, but they lack time for building Christian characters. Both kinds of women – the too-idle and the too-busy need to take time for meditation and quiet repose in prayer to God. They need time to cultivate their souls that in turn they may cultivate their children’s lives.”
When I take a look around to see what single men these days have to offer, I am mostly disgusted. Why can’t they be more like the man of Proverbs 31:1-9? Then I look to the girls and it’s no wonder. Allowing ourselves to be caught up in the foolishness of this world, we don’t have much to offer either. How can we pursue excellence if we are smothered in the dirt of materialism?
If we have time to dwell on things of the world, we have plenty of time to dwell on the things of God.
It is impossible to be both a woman of God and a woman of the world.
“Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.” 1 Timothy 3:11
Then comes the dreadful notion of self-evaluation. Being completely honest with yourself is brutal. However, it has to be done in order to grow.
I have to ask myself some unequivocal questions. Who am I now and who do I want to become? What story does my character tell? Am I closer to looking like the 31 woman or the woman Billy described? Do I strive for excellence in every aspect of my life? More importantly, how would the Lord view my character? What is my attitude in all situations? How pure are the motives of my heart? Do I dwell on the things above?
One thing I always want to be sure of is that I seek qualities and characteristics of the 31 woman as to honor the Lord above anyone else; pursuing these things day in and day out because I fear the Lord as my utmost and genuine intention.
The point is that excellence is an attitude, an intention, and a condition of the heart. Claiming to someday give The Lord, as well as a future husband, the very best in a marriage means absolutely nothing when not even willing give God the very best of my singleness today. Faithfulness in practicing excellence, no matter the current life situation, will produce greater potential in holding to that promise in a marriage one day.
Even in my singleness I can maintain a value far more worthy than jewels; that makes me smile.
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.” ~Max Lucado